Fairytales...

I think when we're kids we always imagine that when we're "grown up" everything will make sense and we'll have all the answers because adults know everything there is to know.

As we "grow up" and reach different stages of life like high school we realize that the grown ups don't always have all the answers. In fact a lot of the time they're wrong, leaving us to search for the true answers on our own. This of course leads to mistakes which can cause (as we all know too well) a lot of drama in our social life. That's when we begin believing that when we are "grown up" we will escape the drama because adults "never make mistakes".

Then we graduate college and realize that the unknowing, the drama...it never really goes away. It only fades a little. We only learn how to deal with it quicker because we've been dealing with it longer.

We realize as we step into the world of "grown ups" that adults really aren't that much different than we were as kids. They (I mean "we", of course) feel confused and hurt and insecure just as much as we did "growing up".

It's funny how a whole lifetime of understanding adults to be indestructible can turn in an instant...that instant when you realize you are an adult and all those things you believed turned out to be fairytales you made up somewhere in your imagination.

It's these fairytales that can prevent a person from living his or her life. A life spent trying to "have all the answers" or "never mess up or feel pain" is not a life at all. It's an attempt to remain a kid, afraid to cross over into the unknown. I know this because I've been doing it for years. I've realized though that life is not something you achieve or complete...at least not while you're living it. It's an on-going experience that you don't really get to look back on till it's over.

So what if you don't have the answers, keep looking...mess up...feel the pain; because that's what it is to be a "grown up". To feel all the confusion and pain and keep on walking, keep on trying....keep on living. It's to know that life isn't always comfortable, to face the fear of that fact with resolve, refusing to surrender to it's power.

Be the hero in your life's story. L I V E . Life finishes itself, so live now and live well.
That's what I'm going to do...get in the game(finally).
You in?